My Problem with Death

There is a moment in life in which trivial things of great concern stop being so important, when minute problems or aggravations simply disappear, when the things we spend so much time and energy on are suddenly the last things on our mind. Bills that have yet to be paid, the book you never picked up, the brown spots on your lawn, the latest gossip from the lady next door, that car your always wanted... all this and more fall away in the face of death. You forget past transgressions and your transgressors are suddenly apologetic. No matter what the quarrel, whether it was with your father for sneaking out to go see a concert, or with a teammate on the high school volleyball team for taking the title of captain, or with that attractive regular at the bar who never called back, and no matter how old the problem, suddenly, none of it matters.

That's my problem with death.

It's an escape, and one that many willing take, even though it may not be there time. Death is a problem solver, an end all solution. To me, death is an expiration date stamped on the back of our necks; it's always a secret, but once others discover it, it becomes an excuse to change things, to apologize, to make things right... But why do we wait?

Why wait for your father to be on his death bed to tell him that you love him? Why wait for your grandfather's passing to suddenly become curious as to his youth? Why beg your brother for forgiveness after he's fallen into a coma he may never come out of? Why do we seem to subconsciously wait for a musician to pass away to listen to his music? Why is an artist's painting more valuable when they're post-humorous?

Why is a human's life suddenly more valuable in death?

Don't wait, because life waits for no one. Remind the ones you love that you love them, even if they sometimes drive you crazy; if they're not driving you up the wall one day because they're trapped in a mahogany box under 3 feet of earth, you might be surprised as to how much you miss being irritated. Ask for forgiveness when you should or risk living with that guilt all your life, risk all possibility of being forgiven.

But death is nothing to be afraid of; its a normal, natural thing that happens to all living things. In the words of Peter Pan, "To die will be an awfully big adventure." But waiting to live when you're knocking on death's door is too little too late. Don't fear life either; no one gets out alive anyway.

Love always, laugh often, and live freely.

Sunday Spring

Mordecai stared out the window from his hospital bed, the sun shining through the thin white curtains on that fine Sunday afternoon; birds were chirping and the window was open just a crack to let in a small spring breeze that carried the scent of the wildflowers that blossomed a few nights ago after a big rainstorm. All Mordecai could think of was how thankful he was to be on the first floor of the hospital, else he couldn’t enjoy what little of spring he could see in his bed-ridden state, but Mordecai was grateful for that little taste of the world outside these four walls. It was all thanks to his lovely wife Esther; she argued with his doctors for days, insisting that it was crucial to his health that he be allowed a small glimpse and breath of nature. She wasn’t lying either; Mordecai spent most of his time outdoors, first as a child playing tag with his older brothers in the backyard, then as quarter back in high school, in college he helped his father take care of the stable, then finally, in his years before serving in the Army, he was caretaker to the animals in the local zoo. But after suffering a stroke a few months back, his feet haven’t felt the tickle of green grass; instead, he’s been poked, prodded, measured, injected, pushed around in a wheelchair, stuck into machines of every shape and size, and, worst of all, he can’t even make a trip to the restroom on his own anymore. Thank goodness for Esther; beautiful Esther, who gave up her days in the classroom to be with him in this prison.

At the thought of his wife, Mordecai turned to her; she was dutifully sitting by his side like she has been since the very beginning in the floral patterned armchair she had their eldest son, Noah, bring in from home. Her nose was where it usually is; stuck inside a book, her favorite pastime. From his place on the bed, Mordecai could see the title: “Tale of Two Cities,” by Charles Dickens. Mordecai shook his head in amusement; Esther must have read that book ten times now. He took in the picture of his wife, the book in her hands, her green eyes slowly rolling across the pages, completely still except for the occasional pause to turn the page. It was a beautiful scene, more so than the lovely spring day beckoning him from the window; the way Esther was at that moment was the way she was the first time Mordecai first laid his eyes on her. True, her honey-colored hair had more snow than honey since then and there were some odd lines on the corners of her eyes and lips that Mordecai had never noticed before. She even looked smaller, something Mordecai didn’t think was possible; poor Esther never had an easy time reaching the fine China on the top shelf of their kitchen. Mordecai wondered if Noah and Abel have been helping their mother in his absence….

Mordecai squinted his eyes, still locked on Esther but not really seeing her; it’s been 30 years, he realized, but he remembers it as if it were yesterday. He remembers having a hard time getting her attention; Esther always seemed intent to block her entire surrounding world when she held those dusty old books in her hands. She was extremely talented too; she could walk and read, eat and read… Mordecai often times wondered if she brought those books with her to the shower or on dates. Mordecai remembers how he would see her walking home everyday; always alone but never lonely. She had her books. But Mordecai finally caught his break when finally, on a lovely Sunday afternoon much like this one, he happened to be walking on the same street Esther always took home but in the opposite direction. He was picking up some tools that he needed to fix a burst pipe in his mother’s kitchen when, lo and behold, Mordecai bumped into the schoolgirl, knocking the book out of her hand. Mordecai even remembers the title: “Romeo and Juliet.”

It was an unexpected friendship-turned-romance that would blossom after that, though not overnight; he was fresh out of graduate school, searching for work and considering the Army, she was barely out of high school. But Mordecai was persistent and it would be two long years before he would finally steal a kiss from her and two more before they committed themselves to each other. He took in Esther’s form, that fateful day on Main Street playing in his head again; how cute she was, in her knee-high brown socks and pleated skirt, her young face flushed read with embarrassment. Mordecai chuckled at the memory and, finally, his wife tore her eyes from Dickens and flashed Mordecai a small smile of surprise.

“What’s so funny?” she said, looking at him over her reading glasses.

“I’m just wondering,” he said, his moustached lips pulling up into a grin. “How is it, after all these years, you’re still so damn cute?”

It was Esther’s turn to chuckle now. She marked the page on her book and left her place on the armchair in favor of a spot next to Mordecai.

“Because,” she said. “After all these years, I’m still younger than you.”

THE END

A Love Poem

I wrote this some time ago and it won 2nd place in a poetry contest my senior year of high school. I hope you like it!

What would I give if I could live outside of these four walls?

What would I pay to spend the day warm in your arms?

Your fingertips caressing my skin,

the way dolphins swim through calm waters.

Your lips brushing against mine

sends a wave crashing against the shoreline.

But why go through the pain

of knowing I'll stay the same?

Knowing that these images that stream,

in my eyes are nothing but a dream...

You see me standing here, not your average girl.

You can search the world, and I'll be your only pearl.

I could have been your one and only,

you wouldn't have to spend your days so lonely.

But a tigress cannot  change her stripes, 

and just as a river is ever flowing, everchanging,

I'm always ripe, and your heart is rearranging, 

making space for someone you can't have forever,

kissing my forehead and saying

"But baby, we're cute together."

What you don't know is I can swim in those eyes, 

and be lost in your lies,

as I gleefully spin and swirl, twist and twirl,

without a care in the world. 

Your voice is as intangible as this love,

humming and resonating in my heart like a dove,

as it coos and sings

of much more impossible things.

But your whispers are a gift to mankind

as it makes my skin rise

and I willingly fall into your arms

and you grin at me with all your charm.

Come and sit a while with me so I can listen to you breathe

and make you believe

and you'll draw the conclusion

that what you see before you is naught but an illusion... 

I walked away this morning and didn't look back.

I didn't want false hopes that you would chase me.

On a day like today, like a sudden attack,

I realized how much I wanted you to embrace me.

Catch me when I fall,

start me when I stall.

Tickle me when I'm serious,

slap me when I'm delirious.

Hold me when I'm crying,

stay with me when I'm dying.

We may not make it through today,

We may not die together.

But for now all I need you to say is "I love you"

and make me light as a feather.

Like Breathing: An Introduction

What can I say about myself? Well, if you couldn't tell from the title of my blog, I'm a writer... or at least, I want to be. I do most of my writing very sporadically, whenever the urge strikes me. I do the writer's equivalent of "doodling," when I'm inspired and jot down whatever scene is playing out in my head on the nearest piece of paper, or if I don't have a pen or pencil handy, I may just type it out on my iPhone. Ideas don't stay fresh in your mind for very long, after all!

Most of what I want to put on paper (metaphorically speaking) is still buzzing around my head. I hope to be able to write out all these scenes on this blog. So that is the goal of "Coll Comfort," a name made up by someone very near and dear to me. But I won't follow any set of rules. I may share more than the moments and characters in my head. I may review books on here; seems like a worthwhile endeavor. I may even ask for suggestions.

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